Back in high school we were taught letter writing. We learned the different types which consisted of formal and informal letters. Writing to loved ones was informal. Some of us were asked to write to our fathers and we started the letter by saying Dear dad.
What I came to realize was that even though all of us addressed our fathers using “dear”, he wasn’t dear to all of us. Some of these people didn’t have the luxury of ever meeting their dad, some were probably abused by their dad in one way or the other, and there were those of us that were simply mummy’s boy. But then there were also those that the word daddy was found in every 10 sentences they made because of their admiration for their dad.
Summary is that everyone has a different background when it comes to father-child relationship.
Over time I’ve come to realise that we tend to reflect the kind of relationship we have with our earthly father to our Heavenly Father, Abba. Well most times.
A child that grew up with so much care and affection from his biological dad would not only find it easy to relate to Abba as a caring and loving Father but would also find it easy to build a relationship with Him.
On the contrary a child that doesn’t know what it means to be loved, doesn’t spend time with his dad or doesn’t even know what it means to have a dad, might struggle in a relationship with Abba. Cos how can someone who hasn’t even experienced love physically from a father figure grasp the idea of being loved by a supernatural being.
The Bible speaking in Romans 8:15-16(MSG) says “this resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. It’s adventurously expectant, greeting God with a childlike “What’s next, Papa?” God’s Spirit touches our spirits and confirms who we really are. We know who he is, and we know who we are: Father and children”
That sums it all. God is our father, we are His children and He expects us to approach Him as children, nothing less.
And so, until we learn to see and approach God as a father that He is, Christianity will remain a religion rather than a relationship.
Don’t think Pastor E. A. Adeboye is a big baby for always saying “my Daddy says…” truth is baba has discovered that Father and son relationship is sweeter than Father and Pastor Relationship.
I’ve heard some gospel songs with lyrics like “Master Jesus”. Brethren, Jesus Is not your master, He’s your loving father. If you see God as a master then that inevitably makes you a servant.
In the words of Tim Keller, “The only person who dares wake up a king at 3:00 AM for a glass of water is a child. We have that kind of access. As we pray, we pause to consider who we are speaking to. And in doing so, we remember that we have access because we are His children.”
A servant has periods he can access his master. But we have access to God twenty-four-seven. From Galatians 4:6-7(MSG) the Bible says “You can tell for sure that you are now fully adopted as his own children because God sent the Spirit of his Son into our lives crying out, “Papa! Father!” Doesn’t that privilege of intimate conversation with God make it plain that you are not a slave, but a child? And if you are a child, you’re also an heir, with complete access to the inheritance.”
Friends, God is waiting on you to approach Him as your father, sadly many have replaced God with their pastors or prophets. It’s good to honour them, but they should never take the position of Abba.
Matthew 23:9-10(MSG) makes it plain, “Don’t let people do that to you, put you on a pedestal like that. You all have a single Teacher, and you are all classmates. Don’t set people up as experts over your life, letting them tell you what to do. Save that authority for God; let him tell you what to do. No one else should carry the title of ‘Father’; you have only one Father, and he’s in heaven. And don’t let people manoeuvre you into taking charge of them. There is only one Life-Leader for you and them—Christ.
Many people also find it incredibly hard to believe, how someone like God can relate to me, ordinary me. Maybe you feel you are unworthy or not qualified to approach Him, or maybe someone has brainwashed you into thinking you are just not good enough. It’s very simple and practical, just call on Him right away with all sincerity and truthfulness of heart and watch Him respond to you in ways that beat your imagination.
Jeremiah 33:3 says “This is God’s Message, the God who made earth, made it liveable and lasting, known everywhere as God: ‘Call to me and I will answer you. I’ll tell you marvellous and wondrous things that you could never figure out on your own.’ This scripture makes it clear that everyone calls Him God, but His children call Him Father. What do you call God?
Lastly, to those who have never had a father figure in their life, I’d like to remind you that God is the Father of the fatherless. Ps68:5. You might have never experienced a father’s love, but trust me nothing surpasses the love of Abba.
God is waiting on you today to commence a relationship, what are you waiting for?
I’d like to dedicate this post to a friend that lost her dad very recently. God’s got you dear! Love you mucho.